Wednesday, 1 May 2013

Striving for Excellence!

 This artical belongs to Parag dada's collection. I read it. I liked it. I ask you to read this. It may be little bit lengthy or it may be boring in some parts, but at the end, you will really love it. I am sure, it will give you a confidence, which will guide you for whole of your life.


Striving for Excellence!
A little chap from a middle class family, five feet five inches, wheat complexion was standing at

the door step after my session on Promoting Thought Leadership. He was little curious and

nervous. I find anxiousness in his eyes. Slowly as crowd disappeared, he came to me and straight

a way said – “ I am an engineer, meritorious student, achieved so many awards in life but still I

find myself unsuccessful; I find myself unsatisfied. I am fade up with company politics, family

expectations, unending work pressures, daily traffic jams, poor health and fear of getting a pink

slip from a company upon my underperformance. It has become so frustrating to live in the space

of competition, comparison, compromise. Please help me to overcome this.”

As education brings prestige, money and sense of achievement it equally brings ego with it.

You may possess the little extra qualification than your parents, your peers and it is sufficient to

feed your ego. It will diminish the harmony in the family in the friend circle. Ego may come

from the sense of status in life. Knowledge can make you sometimes egoistic. And then the

peace is gone. Ego in search of peace is a perpetual beggar.

Beyond the results, beyond the success; beyond money, power, fame and everything; when we

see a human being, I in spirit and you in spirit are one and the same.

Only through ethical and moral living we can have the life where we are not required to hide

ourselves from ourselves. It is the manifestation of energy which defies your life when source of

energy for you, me and others is same. Rather than recognizing peripheral difference between

you and others why not to connect ourselves through spiritual oneness we have?

If we could achieve the state of mind which is out of ego and have no distortion in what you feel,

what you think, what you do, what you achieve and what you report; that is the sense of

peacefulness. The boy who came to me was in a state of mind where what he feels is different

than what he thinks. What he does is different than what he achieves. And what he reports or

what he shows to the outside world is totally the false impression of achievement when truly he

is somewhere lost in understanding his own purpose of life. Thus, it becomes very important to

draw your own roadmap of future and imprint it in the mind at very early stage of the age.

I write this article with immense sense of responsibility to make your time worth investing in

Tirelessly striving to stretch your arms towards perfection is the key. Where the clear stream of

thoughts is not lost somewhere, and you drive it to your goal, you are supposed to achieve what

you are worth for. First neutralize yourself with let ego be out of your body. One human life

lived well could be the turning point for the rest of the world.

In the process of living life you will face ups and downs. The graph of the life is not straight line

and it shall not be a mere straight line. Failure is such fantastic point which allows you to

introspect. The question when you fail is, not what world says on your failure, but, the question

is why you failed? Introspection is the first step in the process of accepting the failure. Many fail

in accepting the failure. They challenge the fact. I don’t want you to challenge the fact but you

shall challenge the future, you shall challenge your own capacities. And the reason is very

simple, the reason for my today is my own past. Do you have any excuse for your failure?

Nobody is interested in your excuses, then why you are? God loves the Trier but world loves the

Failure is not a Defeat! I don’t mind if you fail but I mind if you won’t bounce back. Success is

how much you bounce back when you hit the bottom. - Anonymous

Every today has to be somehow better than yesterday, and every tomorrow has to be better than

today. When clear stream of reason is not lost its way into the dearly desert sand of dead habits;

where everything can be rationale, reasoned out, scientifically explained, when we can build the

intellectual society, there is where we are hitting the era of transformation.

Rabindranath Tagore Said – “When clear stream of reason is not lost its way into the dearly

desert sands of dead habits. Where the mind is laid forward by the into every widening thought

and action into that heaven of action, my father, let my country awake.”

A time comes in the life of caterpillar that it doesn’t want to be a caterpillar any more and that is

the beginning of butterfly. Let’s forget what our past is. Let’s draw the line to set the past as

history and let’s get ready to create the future. If you don’t draw the line then our future will

remain mere repetition, an imposition of the past. Let’s stop conditioning of the past and let’s

from now condition ourselves for the challenge, for changes.

Let’s feel the paradigm shift. Translation into implementation of real life is the aim of the course.

But tonight when you go to sleep, somewhere at the back of mind you feel the translation of your

own thoughts, transformation of your own thought process.

“The day you stop learning is the day you stop growing!”

You are uniquely different. When I am travelling on a road, many people overtake me. Just the

matter he is travelling faster than me he will reach the destination earlier than me but it never

means I won’t reach the destination. Sooner or later even I will reach.

Let’s not waste our time in dissecting our past which cannot be relived. Let’s focus on future,

The spirit of acceptance to accept the past is important. Knowledge is never given to you to

change your past but it is given to you to build your future. Yesterdays experiences were

required to gain maturity of today. Forgive others. Let’s not hate others for whatever wrong they

have done to you. Let us forgive them. The time you forgive them, the time you are in a peace.

Let us follow one story (abbreviated from a Chinese tale) - It seems two monks were walking.

One was younger to the other. They come to a stream and it was about to dark. So the older

monk asked a girl near the stream – Why don’t you go back to your place, it’s about to dark. And

the girl replied - I am afraid of crossing the stream. The young monk immediately offered help,

please get on to my shoulder. He carried her and crossed the stream. He dropped the girl on the

other side of the bank. Monks continued their journey but young monk observed disturbed old

monk. The older monk questioned him- How can you touch a girl? Don’t you know that we are

Sanyasi? We shall not touch the opposite sex?

Young monk said – the girl you are talking of is to whom I dropped long time back. Why are you

People will betray in your life, they will give you something in your life, why to carry them in

your head? Why to disturb your own peace? The only way to let them go from your head is to

forgive them. Forgiveness is not liberalizing others but it is liberalizing you from others. While

driving the rear view mirror has to be seen only for reference and driving has to be done through

wind sheet. Your thinking must be futuristic. The knowledge must not be wasted in dissecting

the past but in constructing the future.

Let’s feel the transformation; transformation is Trans formation that is transcending my old

version to the new version. Let’s evolve to stronger, matured manifested human being.

Let’s come out of the comfort zone. Even if nobody believes you but you believe in yourself,

you make your life. You will definitely architect altogether new future for yourself. Today is the

first day of your life. If you ask me today what is wrong with this country? Can we change the

nation? See, if you are trying to correct the present then you are banging your head against the

wall but if you want to build the nation then it’s possible. Invest in all those who are in the age

group of 15 to 25 today and they are the future.

If you study history carefully, the unintended consequences have shaped the history in a far

better way than those of intended consequences.

Don’t condition your self with words You Can’t.

You need to be sustainable in implementing a change. You think, person studies in IIM-

Ahemedabad, go to the organization and do some changes and achieves great heights? No! Its

when how he could enforce those changes persistently. Sustainability is important.

You desire 1st rank, you desire fame, you desire money, and you desire peace…. But in life you

don’t get what you desire but you will get what you deserve. By Indian cricket team winning the

match, you feel so happy. You celebrate, you enjoy. I accept that you feel proud that India is

winning international matches, India is achieving; but my question is what you do that India shall

be proud of? Where is your contribution?

Strive for excellence in a life to such a level that the country shall be proud of you. Conquer the

world with Passion, Perseverance and Consistency. God bless you!

Tuesday, 16 April 2013

ONE BEDROOM FLAT

 I think most of you have already read this story, but today I again want you to read this. Think again on this. Like a mature guy....


ONE BEDROOM FLAT…

WRITTEN BY AN INDIAN SOFTWARE ENGINEER..

A Bitter Reality

As the dream of most parents I had acquired a degree in Software
Engineering and joined a company based in USA, the land of braves and
opportunity. When I arrived in the USA, it was as if a dream had come
true.

Here at last I was in the place where I want to be. I decided I would
be staying in this country for about Five years in which time I would
have earned enough money to settle down in India.

My father was a government employee and after his retirement, the only
asset he could acquire was a decent one bedroom flat.

I wanted to do some thing more than him. I started feeling homesick
and lonely as the time passed. I used to call home and speak to my
parents every week using cheap international phone cards. Two years
passed, two years of Burgers at McDonald’s and pizzas and discos and 2
years watching the foreign exchange rate getting happy whenever the
Rupee value went down.

Finally I decided to get married. Told my parents that I have only 10
days of holidays and everything must be done within these 10 days. I
got my ticket booked in the cheapest flight. Was jubilant and was
actually enjoying hopping for gifts for all my friends back home. If I
miss anyone then there will be talks. After reaching home I spent home
one week going through all the photographs of girls and as the time
was getting shorter I was forced to select one candidate.

In-laws told me, to my surprise, that I would have to get married in
2-3 days, as I will not get anymore holidays. After the marriage, it
was time to return to USA, after giving some money to my parents and
telling the neighbors to look after them, we returned to USA.

My wife enjoyed this country for about two months and then she started
feeling lonely. The frequency of calling India increased to twice in a
week sometimes 3 times a week. Our savings started diminishing.

After two more years we started to have kids. Two lovely kids, a boy
and a girl, were gifted to us by the almighty. Every time I spoke to
my parents, they asked me to come to India so that they can see their
grand-children.

Every year I decide to go to India… But part work part monetary
conditions prevented it. Years went by and visiting India was a
distant dream. Then suddenly one day I got a message that my parents
were seriously sick. I tried but I couldn’t get any holidays and thus
could not go to India … The next message I got was my parents had
passed away and as there was no one to do the last rights the society
members had done whatever they could. I was depressed. My parents had
passed away without seeing their grand children.

After couple more years passed away, much to my children’s dislike and
my wife’s joy we returned to India to settle down. I started to look
for a suitable property, but to my dismay my savings were short and
the property prices had gone up during all these years. I had to
return to the USA…

My wife refused to come back with me and my children refused to stay
in India… My 2 children and I returned to USA after promising my wife
I would be back for good after two years.

Time passed by, my daughter decided to get married to an American and
my son was happy living in USA… I decided that had enough and wound-up
every thing and returned to India… I had just enough money to buy a
decent 02 bedroom flat in a well-developed locality.

Now I am 60 years old and the only time I go out of the flat is for
the routine visit to the nearby temple. My faithful wife has also left
me and gone to the holy abode.

Sometimes

I wondered was it worth all this?

My father, even after staying in India,

Had a house to his name and I too have the same nothing more.

I lost my parents and children for just ONE EXTRA BEDROOM.

Looking out from the window I see a lot of children dancing. This
damned cable TV has spoiled our new generation and these children are
losing their values and culture because of it. I get occasional cards
from my children asking I am alright. Well at least they remember me.

Now perhaps after I die it will be the neighbors again who will be
performing my last rights, God Bless them.

But the question
still
remains ‘was all this worth it?’

I am still searching for an answer……………..!!!

START THINKING

IS IT JUST FOR ONE EXTRA BEDROOM???

LIFE IS BEYOND THIS …..DON’T JUST LEAVE YOUR LIFE ……..

START LIVING IT …….

LIVE ITAS YOU WANT IT TO BE …….